Monday, March 23, 2009

Opinions

So I get everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether or not you agree with it is up to you. I myself take the approach of listening, taking in what that person has to say and when I walk away if I take or leave it that is my business no one else’s. I am not one to intentionally hurt others feelings and in turn have a very hard time when someone says or does thing to hurt mine. Maybe they do not realize it or maybe they do not care. How one can go through life not caring is beyond me but must make for a very unhappy one. Then again on the same hand I find myself jealous of them as I find one of my biggest flaws is that I care too much, often about people who could care less about me. But does anyone ever take a step back to look at the situation? Do you have the whole story or are you relying on he said/she said knowing fully that there are always 3 sides to every story, his, hers and the truth which is somewhere in between? I am a thinker and a fixer, which results in many sleepless nights trying to figure out how to fix a situation that will make everyone happy. I hate conflict and will try to avoid it at all costs, but I am still willing to stand up for what I believe in, but I am also a grown up now and while in conflict will not lower myself to a junior high school drama queen with immature antics of name calling, mud slinging and backstabbing. But why do some people feel this is necessary? Does it really make them feel better to hurt others or do they just do it for the attention, poor me factor? Do they put themselves in that persons shoes and realize what they must be feeling, or do they even care? For the most part I keep my opinion to myself and deal with my problems on my own rather than asking for help, which leads to a lot of build up that sometimes needs releasing. So this is my release, not directed at anyone or anything in particular, just a vent, because in the grand scheme of things I am a nobody just like everyone else.

So when people ask why I love my dogs so much, this is why….would they ever do anything to intentionally hurt me, no, do they love me for who I am, yes.


Okay I feel better now…

4 comments:

manymuddypaws said...

but by not commenting, and keeping quiet you let others think that your opinion is the same, not different.

the problem with the written word is that it is open to interpretation. the spoken word however is what it is.

you are not a nobody. your opinion does matter. i for one, do care what you think.

Crazy Dog Lady said...

That is a very good point and I never really thought of it that way. I guess when I have something to say I have a hard time finding the words when put on the spot but when I can write it out you can go back and edit and make sure you are getting your point across, I instead get verbal diarrhea and there is no erase button.

manymuddypaws said...

I am the same way bobbi- sometimes things come out at the wrong time, or are said in the heat of the moment. Even in emails- when there is an erase button it is hard to retract what you feel.

Alana said...

You and I are so much alike that it is scary. I would rather stay silent than say something rude, ignorant or insensitive. It also saves me from putting my foot in my mouth (sometimes) and saying something that I can't make better. I feel better for it anyway ;)